I Woke Up Like Dis!

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  We teach girls to shrink themselves.

To make themselves smaller.

We say to girls,

You can have ambition but not too much.

You should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man.

Because I am female,

I am expected to aspire to marriage.

I'm expected to make my life choices, always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important.

Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support,

But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don't teach boys the same.

We raise girls to see each other as competitors, 

Not for jobs or accomplishments,

Which I think can be a good thing,

but for the attention of men.

We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.

- Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche (BEYONCÉ)

828,773 purchased in the first three days; she did that!! Beyonce done did it again. Doing my what feels like 100th listen of the new album by yah girl Yoncé, I was in awe at the greatness that Ms. Chimamanda was speaking on that "Flawless" track quoted above. This got me to thinking, really what's going on in our society? 

The main messages that resonated to me:

• Being "too successful" doesn't make the man look lesser.

• We should teach our young boys to aspire to marriage as we do our young girls.

• Women should be coming together and not fighting against one another. We need each other as a whole.

• Woman should not be shunned for being sexual beings.

If that doesn't say something I don't know what does. These ladies were speaking major gems on this track. Much of the talk of this, what seems to be "controversial" album by the multi-talented singer has been the talk of the world town. Some say Feminism, some say it's just Bey doing the damn thing. The SoNatural has a lot to say in her Open Letter to Black Feminists! 

So when you wake up remember you're flawless!! 

Promise to myself!!

I had heard of promise rings that people buy for themselves or their loved ones bought for them but never have I went out on a limb to buy myself one. This changed when I came across a ring and it literally spoke to my heart. I am not really the type of person that shops all the time and loves everything I come across, so I knew that making this purchase was in my purpose. It was something that God and myself wanted for me.

I am going to tell you all how I knew it was apart of my path to get this ring. I had just saw in my notifications on Instagram, that a profile had liked one of my pictures. I took the time to check them out, which I usually don't do as often and the first thing that I saw was the ring pictured below. Right then and there I knew that that ring was meant for me to make a promise to myself.

I was not sure which had to put it on because I mean I wouldn't want an eligible King to think I am not an eligible Queen. Then, again I felt as if placing it on my actual ring finger would really make it a deeper promise. I think the placement of the ring also had to do with the ring I had on my middle finger since like forever. I finally ended up with the ring on my right hand ring finger, and I just took off the middle finger ring and placed it on my chain. It took meant a lot to me so I couldn't just toss it to the side.

My promise it to honor myself as a Queen, to ALWAYS love me first and to remind me that I deserve nothing but a King. I will follow my dreams to becoming successful, and remind all other Queens that they are indeed one. This is to growth, love, happiness, abundance and good fortune. 

#QueenThings!

Especially

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Mahogany Me

Like a fine wine, aged so sweetly,
I am that Mahogany brown.
So deep, with that hint of flare,
I am that brown without a fear.
I wear it with pride along with my crown.
I stand tall in stride,
With hips not daring to hide,
Because they are mine.
I possess that tropical feel,
With that all American strength.
As my natural tress flows freely above me.
I shield my eyes from the whirlwind of my environment.
I am grounded.
The negative inhale, aids me to my exhale.
The energy of positivity,
Life and renewal.
My roots feed my soul with love like no other.
Spreading my love through these great vines,
Greatness within me, beauty so divine.
I am that Mahogany Brown with A Crown.

                                                - BkAphrodite

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